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PUA: “Hey guys can I ask you a quick question?”

(Before they are afforded time to answer I will usually interject with:)

PUA:” Wait a sec guys you know if there’s one thing I hate it’s
when people make me uncomfortable so what I want you guys to do is flip
me the bird the second I make you uncomfortable in the least okay
*smile*”

I usually get a laugh at this point or a smile at the least.

PUA: “Infact you guys don’t look like you have enough guts to flip me the bird. C’mon go ahead do it, c’maaaaan flip me the bird don’t be so shy *laugh*”

When they do flip me the bird I usually pretend like I’m hurt and start to walk off saying

PUA: “Wow you guys are SO rude! I can’t believe you!”.

PUA: “Neway lemme ask my question cuz I’ve gotta step off in a second. Tell me; is it true girls give each other makeovers?”

If they go on to ask ‘what do you consider a makeover?’ then guess what… I’m in the convo! Yippie. If they answer ‘no’ I will proceed to stay, break that thread and use a different opener (if and only IF I like their energy) or simply eject the set. The only time in which this failed was when an Hb9 (by my standards) told me “I don’t know” to which I answered (being an absolute idiot at the time.. blame the fucking vodka boys!) “Oh so you’re not a girl then?”. She retorted with a look of disgust coupled with “no I’m a guy!” at which point I chuckled (mostly at myself) and walked off.

Usually I will recieve a ‘yes’ response of some description. “Yea well we do each other’s make up sometimes”. “Well if we dont’ like something about how one of our friends dresses we’ll tell her”.

PUA:”Ah I see, sooooo *looking around the group* I bet you were a victim of a makeover right? *pointing to the SHB of the group*.
If she answers ‘yes’ then I initiate a conversation about what they did to her and continue on to my ‘difference between girls and guys’ routine.
If I recieve a ‘no’ (which I secretly hope for everytime so I can role play).

PUA: “Wow, so I bet you’re a fashion guru right? (let her answer) Hey! you know what we’re gonna do; we’re gonna give me a makeover right now. Listen though you have to be really brutal otherwise I wont believe you. I hate it when people are all nice in my face and give me fake compliments all the time when they don’t mean them. C’man go ahead, tell me.

If she doesn’t want to give me a makeover I’ll ask her friends if she’s always “so shy, I mean c’mon she’s even afraid to give me a make over, forget it you guys give me one instead.”
Note: This can get you BLOWN OUT in the most indiscrete of fashions.
If she does oblige and give me a makeover I’ll commend her on her work but tell her ‘that’s exactly what all my chick friends say but I personally think my look is unique and I’m all about me”. After doing that I’ll turn to her friends or preferably my wingman.

PUA: “Hey guys I think I might have found my new fashion stylist, Wow she’s really amazing. She even gave me a makeover free. Sadly though I cant take her advice…”.
They usually take the bait of the open loop but if they don’t we all are in possesion of atleast the most basic of social skills and will be able to start a new thread…. right friends?

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This sort of thing goes back to framing. and BAITING her into attraction.
Now ‘framing’ is what defines the social interaction.
With a friend you have got to do it with a smooth transition.
Also I don’t know how aggressive you are personality-wise.
If you are the best thing you could do is say this…

“You know X, this is gonna sound weird but I would be lying if I didn’t say anything to you. But in the time I have known you and in getting to know you more I have become really attracted to you. And at the same time, I know you have a guy around and being friends is more important to me. But I just had to say something because it deserved to be out there.”

She will react to this in confusion and instability.
Now in this she will immediately chose to distance herself from you.
So you have got to be the ALPHA and be the one to CONTROL her STATE (very important)
So as soon as she tries to say..
“Oh, I am sorry I am with Captain Zero”
You have to interrupt her and say,

“Hey, don’t answer. Look I am your friend and don’t need a reply. I just had to let you know, but this doesn’t change anything, so stop freaking out… give me a hug.”

So you see how that works?
Let me break it down…

-You go direct which has ultimate alpha-ness, but it puts you at a point of weakness
-But you also show willingness to walk away (an attraction switch) by not being needy. You’re saying is boldly like a statement, that you like her, but you’re not telling her to make her your girlfriend, you’re telling her she needs to know because you think it. It is respect and if she has a problem with it, then she is not a friend.
-Then because you know if she jumps in your arms things will be cool, but I can bet that she will react in trying to push you away. She probably does feel these things towards you, but when a girl is in a bind or anyone really they react in immediate safety. And in this situation, you’re the threat.
-So you then work some of my psychological magic (Invictus you should like this one), you do a take away.
She will react right away and then you tell her not to. You tell her not to answer and you say you’re her friend and hug her.

This will so cultivate in her head major attraction.
You should not worry about calling her, because it will work itself in her head.
You will have done a major sneak attack in her brain.

Don’t seek her out, and don’t try and call her.
Let it come around to you. Every time you see her, act normal and be her friend, but her BF’s friend. Be Alpha, by not reacting. Maintain the frame, and lead in every social interaction with her.

If you show weakness in this, you will creep her out, if you show confidence she will comply and maintain the frame for you.

Now let’s say you don’t have the balls for that…
Understandable.
But then you need to run jealousy threads and work your attraction game through the attraction switches.
Main ones…
-Protector of loved ones
-Pre-Selected by women
-Leader of men

Now how you do that is not by a routine here and there, it has to be instilled in you.

But here is some help with that.
Construct your DHV stories to have jealousy plot lines and sexually frame.

Like…
(with friends)

“Man the other night me and Becky (a real girl everyone knows) where hanging out and she got so fucking drunk.
So and so and I were at BAR Z and so was Becky, so we started doing shots and after a while she got really wasted, and so I knew I had to stop and look after her.
There were these frat guys there and they kept trying to talk to her, and you know it is no big deal… I know women like to get some just as much as guys, I judge NOT! But she’s like one of my better looking friends and
I know Becky pretty well and I know she wouldn’t want to have a bunch of meat heads all over her.
So I took her by the out to get some fresh air outside, and it was like one of those moments you know…
I mean i could see it in her eyes.
I knew it could be a trouble night for her.
So I called her friend Crystal and waited for her to pick her up.
It is like one of those things where you’re drunk and lonely but it is always a weird thing waking up next to somebody in the morning that you don’t really know.
Like who, hasn’t done that???”

There will be a bullshit reply from friends, men and women…

“Ok you’re all full of shit. It is totally cool, I mean I would like to say that this sort of thing has happened to me all the time, but one thing I will say is when it has, I actually really respect it. Nothing big, about it, I just realize sometimes you have got to live life and when weird things come up, it is better to make the best of them and see them as experiences rather than consequences.”

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HB: Looks like the kegs are done, what are you doing now?
PUA: I just wrote a new song on my guitar. Mini-concert at my place!
HB: Oooooh that sounds awesome! But….I think I’m gonna take a taxi back to my place I was sposed to comfort my roomie tonight.
PUA: My place is close and I hear taxis can pick you up there too. Let’s go. *take her hand*
HB: Ok!

Same Night Lay Guidelines
Hola PUAs,

As promised, my insights on SNL’s.

The first major attitude shift is this: Women don’t go to clubs/bars only to listen to music, drink or talk to friends. They can do all of those at home or at a friends house. They go because they want/need sex and they want to be picked up.

Debriefing shows they would have sex the same night more often were the feelings there. Your job, fellow pirate, is to create the feelings, create the opportunity and do so in a manner that seems so natural and easy that it seems like it all just fell into place.

Sinn referred to this when he said, “Captain Jack Method: Hang out till sex happens.”

First I want to tell you that there IS a difference between Same-Night-Lays (SNL) and One Night Stands (ONS).

ONS skips comfort which usually results in buyer’s remorse. For all the 4-5 hours of precious time you invested you get one lay. Even worse, if you mismanage the escalation and trigger asd/lmr that you can’t get through, you’ll get zero lays.

I’ve never had any problems seeing/dating a girl who I laid the same night because I qualify and build comfort.

I’ll take this from the top…

You need to get there early (in Tejas, that means no later than 10:00) because some of your sets will fail the SNL screening statements (more on that later) and you’ll need to close out with a TimeBridge, stay the obligatory 5-10 minutes to solidify and move on.

You should focus on mixed sets. This may seem counter-intuitive but experience has shown me this is true. Here’s why: In all girl sets they often pile into one car. But, in mixed sets you have a greater chance of girls taking their own car and/or meeting the group later.

Do a little thought experiment: How many times have you witnessed a girl walking into the bar alone…she’s looking for someone…she finds them and before you know it she is seated with a 4-5 mixed set.

You open the group in the standard way, do all the normal things you’d do until you hit the “How do you guys know each other?” waypoint. If she’s not there with someone, then isolate (or atleast get mini-isolation.)

Now that you are in isolation it’s time to start with the sexual framing. I use my version of Strawberry fields and “Rings on Fingers” to frame things sexually and I start seeding the TB.

It is supremely important that you don’t convey any “judgmentalism” regarding sex, sexual preferences or lifestyles in any way, shape or form.

You also don’t want to place too much importance on sex by talking about it or calling it a “special thing between two people” or any silly shit like that. The underlying attitude is sex is normal, healthy, fun and about to happen soon.

At the begining of C1 I start to screen for logistics issues…I listen for answers to these questions or ask them outright.

* Who did she ride with. (Best answer is, of course, alone in her car.)
* What time does she need to get up in the morning. (Best answer, later the better.)

(These things just make it easier. The better you get the more willing girls are to ignore things like riding home with guys she just met or getting up early. I know it’s hard to believe but experience proves it true.)

If the vibe is sexual and I feel like there are no obvious excuses for her not to come home with me (have to work early is the main one) I’ll stay around. If not, then I’m looking for a new set. This needs to be run super-tight. I’m talking 20 minutes in you’re making this decision because you need to be solidly in comfort by 12:30 (for venues that close at 2:00). This 1.5 hours is the MAIN (but not only) factor which distinguishes this from ONS (the other being non-sexual qualification and peer befriending.) I call 12:30 to 2:00 “Putting my time in…”

Always TimeBridge, it makes the SNL easier because it lessens asd and lmr.

As it gets closer to closing time 1:20-1:30 I start saying things like, “I don’t want the night to end, I’m really enjoying myself.”

If she agrees or says nothing you can say, “Let’s hang out at my place. I have xyz alcoholic drinks and we can watch that show I was telling you about.”

Or, you can say, “I’m kinda hungry.”

You’re saying this to see what kind of reaction you get. She may go ahead and propose eating somewhere. (Though, I’ve stopped doing this almost a year ago because I lost a few “sure” lays as the sexual tension lessened, the tiredness set in and the alcohol (and fun mode) wore off.)

The after hours club is also a good proposal. I’ve used this one quite a few times. It’s perfect because you have to swing past your place to get alcohol before heading out. And, oh by the way, the club doesn’t even open til 3am so we got 45 minutes to burn. Let’s see, how are we gonna kill 45 minutes? I know, we’ll have sex! Ha ha.

But, one of my favorite tactics (if she drove) is to get her to give me a ride home. Then, while in the parking lot you can say “Come in for a bit. You can use the restroom and have some water before you head home.” Then, grab her keys, turn off the car and get out.

(What’s that? Do I hear you worrying about your car? Don’t worry about it dude, you’re going to get laid! Have a friend take you back to your car if need be. Or, better yet, have the girl do it that night.)

Logistics separate the men from the boys (or the mPUAs)

The best mental image I can give you here is “Baby Steps.”

I rarely tell them where/how far away I live. Some of the places I go to are a good 35-40 minutes away. Sinn and I have pulled 2 or 3 times SNL’s from those locations so he can attest to my skill in that area.

Fidelio, KinoMaster, and Tribulus have all witnessed with their own eyes me doing this, multiple times, as well.

The goal is to get her to the seduction location and make it look like it sorta just happened. This is why the “gimme a ride home” and the “after hours venue, oh wait, gotta go home and get alcohol” tactics work so well.

Hopefully, you started a good kino progression early in the sarge. Because once she’s in your place it’s time to amp it up a little bit.

Hot/cold is the order of the day. Make out, pull back, continue with your comfort material. Tease her mercilessly.

Have your LMR skills honed because you’ll almost surely have to use them.

The good news is: If you don’t get the lay, the day2 is almost assuredly going to be her coming straight over to have sex with you and that’s my kinda date.

~ Captain Jack ~

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“Do you wanna sleep with me… No never mind, the most you’re gonna get out of me is sex.” – Swiniggcat

HB: “We’re not having sex tonight!”
PUA: “I don’t believe you… you don’t even believe you.”
- Swinggcat

“What does your boyfriend do? (She gives occupation) Great! He can do our taxes (or make our meals, change my oil or whatever) while we’re out having fun!”

“OMG, where is her off button?” – Mystery

“You are a disagreer, aren’t you? Your job is to disagree with everything I say. Lets see… ” – Mystery

“Thank you. Now you may leave.” – Mystery

“We will be right over there, come join us in a minute.” (Isolation excuse for the group.)  – Mystery

“We like each other, are you cool with that?” (Addressed to the friend, this is a fantastic line that assumes the sale and helps them backwardrationalize that they indeed like you.) – Mystery

“I’m about to spank that ass”
(Whenever you are about to battle a girl at something, basketball, racecar game etc.)

“Your nails look dangerous!”

“I hate plans… what are you doing right now?”

“I don’t know why, but I’m drawn to you. Can you Rationalize this for me?“

“Do you know why you and I would never get along? We’re too similar, that’s why. You wouldn’t take my shit, I wouldn’t take your shit, what’s fun in that?“

“You remind me of a good girl acting bad.”

HB: How old are you?
Me: Almost 30…
HB: No you’re not
Me: Yeah I’ll be 30 in… 6, years.
HB: Laughs (it will never stop amazing me how often girls can’t do math)

Love, Michiavelli Style

10 Zen Monkeys

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Next time you’re at a party, try this trick: Have a person hold one arm straight out to the side, palm down, and instruct him to maintain this position. Then place two fingers on his wrist and push down. He’ll resist. Now have him put one foot on a surface that’s a half inch higher (a few magazines) and repeat. This time his arm will cave like the French. By misaligning his hips, you’ve offset his spine, says Rachel Cosgrove, C.S.C.S., coowner of Results Fitness, in Santa Clarita, California. Your brain senses that the spine is vulnerable, so it shuts down the body’s ability to resist.

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(This article is only posted here so that my friends can see it and comment on it in the context of our discussion. If the owner wants us to take it down we will do so, and apologize for any inconvenience.)

1. Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
2. Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
3. Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
4. Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
5. Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
6. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
7. Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
8. Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
9. Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
10. Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.